I’m getting my message out in a clearer fashion: No Man, No Trainer, No Money, No Dependency — Only Drive. This is true and always has been for me. The difference between me and the other female fitness “gurus” out there, is that 9/10 of them have a privileged platform that got them started. They have men who put them on pedestals and inspired them to workout, saying they can be the next great, sexy fitness model or Instagram “fitness” girl (I’ve witnessed this many times over the 15 years I’ve been active in the fitness industry and as a trainer). This man may be an experienced fitness competitor or athlete who guides her for free; or some other perk. If not this scenario, the woman is privileged in that she can afford a trainer to guide and hold her hand to her goal(s). Privileged, in that the woman has the time and resources to reach peak shape with few obstacles.
Then there are the others, like the many women I trained in the past, who require the absolute most favorable conditions in their personal lives; motivationally, schedule-wise, and financially, to pursue the simplest of fitness goals. Are these dependent and privileged women deeply committed to fitness? These women simply regurgitate what their boyfriend-trainer or paid trainer in the background teaches them. They are not the creators of the information they “teach” on their websites or Instagram pages. They are receivers, posing as conceivers or originators of the workout regimes and diet plans they promote. In my experience, it’s best to go to the source for advice, not his/her “poster child.”
A muscular and agile body is the only kind of body I’m comfortable in. I’ve been able to hit every one of my goals through brain power, and my ability to know where to look for information. My fitness journey began while still a kid in high school and a teen mom. My motivation was a strong adoration for the muscular build, and this idea that humans can be as beautiful, agile, and graceful in shape and condition as a cheetah, lioness or a python. Sounds crazy, but this belief — and many others, motivate me and keep me going. As a newbie, I wondered why so many people lack the discipline to develop and/or at least maintain their bodies; why they’re in such a hurry to let themselves go. I love muscle and fitness. It never occurred to me to get a trainer or wait around for some guy to rescue me and show me the way. I took to books. Books from fitness training institutions (e.g. International Sports Sciences Association, and others) and elite coaches — the same as I do now.
I strive for life-long health. And in that, I believe it’s necessary to possess a drive that is independent from the aid of anyone but myself. One should not seek approval from anyone outside of themselves. They should be self-motivated and self-reliant; have goals that are true to themselves. Not goals that involve fulfilling your boyfriend’s or husband’s vision of you being the next great, sexy fitness model, or winning an award for standing on a stage — not for performing an actual athletic feat. Those goals revolve around gaining approval (superficial approval) from the outside world. Alternatively, I believe and practice self-motivation and self-reliance as the key to lifelong health, fitness, and personal satisfaction; big or small. No Man, No Trainer, No Money, No Dependency — Only Drive. That’s me.